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Pooja, the good thing is that you are crying. Its a gift to be able to express one's grief. I hope sharing this list was as freeing for you as it is for the reader.

Your mother must have been so good to have a daughter like you ❤

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I wrote it after weeks of marinating in those feelings. The release finally gave me relief.

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You think you’ll just cry over the loss of the person, but nothing prepares you for all the tiny (sometimes silly) things, related to the event or the person, that make you cry.

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she's my first for everything. how can i not remember her in the smallest of things. living with that is the most difficult part of living without her.

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I distinctly remember this incident where after my mom passed away I was travelling by train at night and saw a girl beside me getting a call from her mom asking when will she reach home and at that moment I just couldn’t control my emotions and felt like crying. I felt so lonely in that particular moment where my mom is not there to ask me and nobody cares. This might be a little extreme to think but I felt that.

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Oh Radhika, I know exactly what you mean. It was not extreme. When we lose our mothers, we lose the one force that keeps us afloat in this dreadful world. It is very difficult to simply go on with life like before. Hope my words brought you some relief <3 thank you for reading

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Oh yes! Keep writing :)

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You’ve touched me deeply in profound ways here. My mother, my muse, the Italian cook and baker, left us in 2016. What I wouldn’t give for a taste of her nourishment ❤️❤️❤️

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:( it doesn't get any easier, does it?

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No, dearest Pooja, it does not ☹️❤️

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Thank you holly for sharing your story with me. It took me a few days to get back because the days following the anniversary were also heavy. That’s what grief does, no? It comes in waves and all you can do it simply ride with it.

Even today, when I’m just going through my day, I get the feeling that my phone will ring with her on the other side. The realisation comes secondary. Almost as if I have to remind myself that she’s not here. I think that it’s a good thing - it means that deep down I believe she’s just around here. I hope you carry your Mum’s love and warmth with you in the same way ♥️

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